At a party over the weekend, during a random conversation with a couple, who is friends of our family, Luis and I find out this said couple is trying to have kids. We were elated, we love kiddos! They mention they were having some issues. They are older so we think it's something to do with that.
More information is sort of blurted out.
It turns out they were pregnant but found out that both of them carry the gene for Cystic Fibrosis and that their child is also carrying the gene and most likely would be born with CF. So they terminated the pregnancy.
A little about me: I speak my mind frequently (especially when I'm heated) but I come from a family who
I'm a momma, so clearly I'm pro life, big fan of babies, etc.
More specifically- I hate that the government is medling into our lives. I fully get Pro Choice, minus the outcome. But before this very conversation, I thought a majority of abortions happened to 14 year old girls who made mistakes too early in their lives. Or maybe to a couple or individual who hated children, was in a bad place financially, rape victim etc. I never even thought this would be a possibility- I couldn't even imagine it and I definitely couldn't believe someone admitting it to a group of people.
I don't know what it was but I was so incredibly offended I literally couldn't even look at the couple. At one point I thought I was going to be sick. Staying in tune with my family backgrounds, I stayed completely mute until the topic was changed. I KNEW if I opened my mouth I was guaranteed to say something that would make everyone feel uncomfortable.
So now I'm opening my mouth, in a controlled well thought out way...
How can you want children but then eliminate one?
What if the test was wrong? No test is 100% with results.
What if you just said goodbye to a perfectly healthy baby?
Does this mean when your future baby IS born you'll give them up the first time they screw up?
How is adopting your child to someone else, who is desperately wanting a child, not an option?
Fortunately, I was able to discuss this topic with another momma who had heard the same conversation I did. She brought up a very credible point: they are older, this decision could have stemmed from thinking they couldn't provide the care a CF child would need. While the point was credible, I am still- obviously 3 days in- turning my wheels.
Not saying there is any excuse, but her comments did calm me down from seeing red.
Okay so honestly- I need to know... am I in the wrong here??
Is there a side I'm not seeing?
Thank you for listening to my vent session. We will return to reguarly programmed entries of DIY goodness and fashion focused for mommies tomorrow!